Why is maturity important for people in a relationship?

May 07, 2012 14:26


#1 Fact: Being in "love" will always be the best feeling in the world - next to winning a 100M Jackpot in Lotto
#2Fact: The moment you are in-"love", the heart always get the control and decision making instead of having the heart -and- mind tandem
*for a mature person, this characteristics does not apply

Why is maturity important for people in a relationship? 

I wanna quote this description of Osho of how maturity either destroys or prolong a relationship. This words pointed a gun on my face and smashed my immature stand against love relationship. Take note of the phrases in bold format.

“Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s

freedom, create a bondage, make a prison.

Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help

each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when

love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love

flows with dependence there is ugliness."

You're supposed to help each other by being a lifetime partner, not a lifetime mocker. There are words we say that often hurts the feeling of our partner and most of the time it becomes the destroyer of trust between couples. Jesus Christ has the best example of love - unconditional love for His children and also willing to die for them amids their sins and hardness. There must be love- an unconditional love whose goal is to strengthen each other. Immature people think only of themselves and they're partners being like an object that can be replaced, set aside, and even throw away whenever she/he likes. Selfishness is immaturity and immaturity is ugliness inside a relationship.

"A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises

in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and

fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and

standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand.

They were always ready to fall on the ground and to

creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they

don’t have the integrity to stand alone."

A good love relationship is all about having a good foundation. What's the purpose of loving a girl and yet your not sure if she's the one? Or should we say that the girl is not that sure if she can have a lifetime with a guy like you? Standing together is the best part of love. You can prove how much they love each other by the times they fall- and yet stand together.

A mature person has the integrity to stand alone.

And when a mature person gives love, he or she gives

without any strings attached to it. When two mature

persons are in love, one of the great paradoxes of life

happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are

together and yet tremendously alone. They are together

so much that they are almost one. Two mature persons in

love help each other to become more free. There is no

politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate.

Only freedom and love.”

True love has equality between partners. If one is more matured than the other, then he/she must take effort to help the other grow. The two must grow in love and respect - that would mean a growth for both of them. Both must be strong enough to cater the needs of the other and no domination should be implemented. A mature person will always try his best to help the other grow in maturity, however the other one must not take it for granted.