True love

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 True Love

 I was thinking, if true love really exist - we really wouldn't need fairy tails right? Well, forget the bitterness and all that I-don't-believe in love stuff. For seven years I tried hard to self portray and express as much as I could on how to show true love.

 This is what I discovered.

 1. Love is in a form of sacrifice. Everything you do for your partner requires something from you. May it be time, resources, understanding, and even pain. There is no "I did this for you, why don't you do the same for me?!" Showbiz peeps are used to divorce coz they think their own love life's are just like the movies. But hellno, I know you would agree on this - everyone wants to have a partner who would be their last. When you love, just love. Many people love because they are "being loved back" and what happens when their partner becomes cold? Would they do the same? Again, No. You love because you love - and you are capable to do that without any help from other people or any inspirations from them (well, obviously). Despite her shortcomings or even the coldness, still love. Despite the storms inside your relationship, just love. There are never ending reasons why you should love her - I really don't have to list it down.

 Love her because she is your partner. Period

 2. Love is a decision I often go to weddings and observe especially their vows. "Till death do us part" - my favorite line and also happens to be my favorite song. Sooooo romantic and full of promises - well, they vowed for it right? However, if you vowed for such promises to your partner, how come divorce so cheap like candy nowadays? Long time relationships are now exchanged just for money - custody for it. Also, it's very easy to be unfaithful nowadays. Men and women , especially when in a cold relationship, are into other "outside" and fling relationships just to fill their emotional needs. So what happened to that "till death do us part"? I don't heard anything it say's "Ok, as long as you are loving, faithful, holding my hands, kissing me back, romantic, etc - I will be the same for you. But if you stop to be that kind of person, sorry but we have to break up" Well seriously, there are no vows like that and it's not even a vow.

 When you love a person, it's a decision. That's one of the important things I learned from my parents - you love a person because you chose it. It's your decision. For better or worse - or even to the point of being at her "worst", you must be there, still the same person loving her unconditionally. Loving is not based on emotions or even on how much sweet she is to you.

Forget the twilight effect. We are on the real world. Stories are just stories. They are destined to have good and happy endings. But you, you control your relationship.

Your own perception of "love" determines the outcome on how good or how worse your relationship will gonna be.

 3. Love is unconditional

 Well, palasak na ito. But still a very important saying for those in a relationship. Just like in the beauty and the beast, it doesnt matter how imcompatible the both of you in terms of facial distinction. What matter is what you both feel for each other right? A person who loves unconditionally doesn't need a reason for loving her partner.

For those who are curious to ask why did I let my first and seven year relationship turn into dust, here's the reason.

 Remember the three things I've just mentioned? Your relationship will die if only one person will do it. You won't really be happy if you are only the person loving sacrificially and unconditionally. No matter how hard you decided to hold on to a certain person and love her with your whole life, it's still a trash if she won't acknowledge it.

Your relationship won't survive if only one is loving truly. It takes two to tango. Relationships are for partners. Two person loving each other will all their might. Loving unconditionally. Loving without expecting. Decided to love the other till death seperates them.

 Dedicated to: Allan Felipe & His lovely girlfriend Rose

Thanks for the inspiration.
I now believe in fairy tales. lol

Arg Notes #22: Love at first sight

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Love at first sight. Remember the first time you saw your crush?

Yes, that "butterfly" feeling you felt with matching cold drops of water on your back?

No, it's not that thing.

I'm almost on my mid 20's and I consider myself picky when in terms of "admiring" women. Well, it really depends on the person in charge on his standard body-character-personality test on a girl he is starting to like. We, guys, have our own checklist. You must accept that fact. It's rare find for a girl to be both beautiful with good personality or either one with a cute smile and a hot body.

In reality, they have their own characteristics that makes them unique. Each of them is beautiful on God's eyes. Loving is in fact a comlex feeling. As explained by the majority, " It makes life worthwhile". The worst case scenario is - you don't know if you're in love or maybe you're just flattered to the extreme level. I don't know if I will start to believe in love at first sight but believe me when I saw this girl, I was really strucked hard like one of those blow of Marquez.

Arg Notes #12 : Kaibigan

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Salamat sa mga kaibigan. Sa bawat tawa't ligaya, lungkot ng tropa, at sa bawat isang nawawalan nang pagasa, hindi man halata pero andyan sila at nakikiramay pa. Minsan inaasar ka, pero sa likod nun ay ang motibong paligayahin ka. Iba't iba ang korte ng katawan, mula gasul hanggang bewang ng baka. Puro chicks at mayroon naring gwapo. Lahat kami ay tinatawag na panalo. Panalo sa pagiging sawi at frustrated sa nakaraan. Ilang taon ang pinaglipasan, ilang galon ang iniyakan. Pero hindi dito nagtatapos ang buhay naming magkakaibigan, simula palang yan ng tropang kulitan. Kurot sa tagiliran, hampas ng bag na sinimulan, lahat ito nagsimula sa tropang napagiwanan ng pagmamahalan.  Pipigilan ang bawat pagpatak ng iyong luha. Papalitan ng kilig at saya na kahit kay Mario Maurer hindi mo makikita. Anu man ang napagdaanan, isang kilong paperworks man, taob yan kapag nagpatawa na sila. Makakalimutan mo ang mga lungkot na sa pag-uwi mo'y abala. Andyan sila kasama ka. Magkakaibang department man, pero iisa ang diwa at pagasa.

#tropangsawi

Starbucks Coffee

Kahit ako lamang ay isang simpleng mamamayan at isang tao na isang kahid isang tuka + maraming meryenda , kabilang ako sa mga kabataan na tumatangkilik sa pagbili ng kape sa "Starbucks" Copyright. O ayan nilagyan ko na ng quote. Baka ipakulong pa ko ni Sotto para sa *&!? na Cyber Crime law na yan.

Sa totoo lang, hindi ka naman bibili ng kape sa Starbucks sa halagang P100 ng dahil lang sa masarap ito diba? Minsan kasi dahil sa uso, at lalo na kapag artista na ang tumatangkilik dito, feel narin natin maki-jive sa agos ng trending ngayon. Pwede ka rin naman bumili ng 3-in-1 nalang na kape tapos gawin mong cold coffee sabay bili ng mainit na bonete sa bakery nyo sa kanto. Yan ang tunay na pinoy.

Pero teka lang, hindi ako anti sa mga sosyalera't sosyalero na kahit wala ng makain o kaya naman sakto lang ang allowance eh nagtatabi parin ng pang gastos para sa mga gintong frappe na ito. Ang sabi ko nga. ako'y simpleng tao lamang- nagmamahal din este nagsusulat lang pala. Tanaan na kung sino ang tamaan, basta ako wala akong binabato.

Naalala ko noong college. May accounting subject kami na hindi ko alam kung pano gagawin, pano ba naman kaliwa't kanan ko ay may Giraffe na sa bawat pagsulat ng ballpen ko ay nakaabang sila sa mga numero. Hindi talaga ako makapagfocus. Parang umiikot lang ang diwa ko at sa bawag pagsasalita ng aming guro, parang wala lang. Pati calculator ko noon, parang sinukuan narin ako.

Kaya naman nagisip ako ng paraan para makapag-concentrate.

Nagpunta nalang ako sa MOA dala ang eleganteng calculator ko, sandamak-mak na scratch papers, at columnar.

Saktong sakto at walang tao sa MOA. Hindi naman, OA. Medyo konti lang siguro sa kadahilanang holiday noon at kailangan ko lang talagang magreview. Doon ako tumambay sa may baywalk sa likod. Hindi pa masyado pansin ang Starbucks sakin noon, dahil in the first place ayoko magpakasosyal at lalong hindi ako mukang sosyal - in short hindi bagay sakin ang napaparoon sa mga ganung establishment.

Sa aking paglalakad nakaamoy ako ng kape, hindi lang basta kape, - amoy kapeng iniinom ni Angel Locsin. Kaya naman sinubukan kong pasukin (hindi  bilang magnanakaw) ang Starbucks para umorder ng ....wait, what? P150, P175, P200    Ano toh may libreng USB?!

*after 10 mins* *Sir, Can I take your order?"
me: Aaaah, miss yung pampagising nga.
Ms: Sir, You can try yung Decaf namin

Bottom line: Naka 3 orders ako ng venti decaf in a span of 5 hours of reviewing for my accounting finals.

It was worth it. Though the price is considerably that high for an average student like me before - look at the ambiance of the place, the smiles of each baristas, the couch, and of course the smell of the coffee beans surrounding the place.

Teka ba't napa-english ako. Tagalog dapat toh.

Balik tayo sa topic. Ang pagpunta sa starbucks at pag-order ng gintong este masarap na kape ay hindi lang simbolo ng pagpapaka"sosyal" o pagsunod sa uso. May mga pagkakaibigang nabubuo din sa loob nito. Relasyong napapagusapan at pamilyang nagdadamayan.

Hindi ka nagpapapicture ng may hawak kang kape ng starbucks - ng para lang ipamuka mo sa facebook na nakapunta ka dun. Ito ay litrato na naging satisfied ka sa binili mo, kahit alam kong ipinangutang mo lang yan para ma-impress mo ang girfriend mo.

Lahat tayo may kanya- kanyang karanasan dito - may kwela, may pang-tropa, may napadaan lang, o na curious ka lang kung anong lasa ng iniinom nila.

Pero hindi lahat nagtatapos sa simpleng higop ng masarap nilang choco frappe. May mga pagkakataon na hindi inaasahan, gaya ng ending ng istorya kong ito.

Tulad ng nasa litrato, yaan na ang pinakahuli na kasama ko ang pinakamamahal ko.

Boom!

Arg Notes #6: My Sassy Girl

Arg Notes #6: My Sassy Girl

July 4,2012

Familiar date isn't it?

Don't mind. It's all over now. Reminiscing would just be a disastrous idea. However, I would'nt put everything into trash - especially those memorable moments that made me stronger and inspired to love even more. My life is being shaped by an all-knowing and gracious God, supportive parents, and an inspiration from the only person that thought me to love truly - without her knowing. I dedicate this article to all those nearly 72 months we've shared together. The laughter. The tears. The breaking up and the getting back. EVery moments are important. It taught me to live life.

To the next person who will have her heart,

Keep this in mind.

• She is simple. Forget your first impression on her - the height, the pretty face, the perfect body. Yes, she's all that. However, the main thing about her and the first thing you should accept about her is that she's a simple person. That would mean, you can make her smile by doing "simple" efforts. Take her somewhere else without over spending- yes, she would enjoy that (just be sensitive about her likes and dislikes). She dresses simply on most occasions- but don't be too shocked when she unleashes her true fashionista side, she's has a better fashion statement than most of the women who pretends to have a celebrity sense of style. 

• Break her heart and I will break your face.

• When ordering chicken at McDonalds, Don't ever ask for a breast part. She doesn't like hard to chew parts. Order wings or thigh part Instead. Another thing, ask for salt instead of ketchup. No matter how I love dipping my crispy french fries on a tomato ketchup, salt will always be her number one choice. Lastly, make sure you have everything you need before going back to the table and after ordering. That would mean that the spoon and forks and straw is already placed on your tray. Or else, expext her viciously looking, still-cute look of her eyes. 

• She prefer Iced Tea more than SoftDrinks. She always bring a bottled water. Make sure you have one too incase of her shortage. Warm water would too, she's not that picky.

• Holding hands: 

1.  On your first (months) of relationship, don't be too aggressive especially on holding her hands on the public. She's the type of girl who doesn't really prefer public display of affection but still wants you to make her feel loved, cared, and being protected.

      2.  HOLD HER HANDS WHILE CROSSING THE STREET.

• Text her " I love you" ramdomly throughout the day. She will reply with a smiley face, "mwuah", or an "I love you too". 

• Obsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD). She likes cleaning the house. She love putting things in order. She has that kind of perfectionism in terms of cleaning. So better ready yourself getting fit to work - cleaning. I help her one time in cleaning our church chapel, after that day I was sick and unable to work. She has the perfect body and motivation - for cleaning. That's one thing I admire about her. 

To be continued...

Boy meets girl

Boy meets girl*

Feb 20th, 2010 1:41am

Stop the time. It doesnt matter. Whenever Im with her, feels like hours are turned to seconds and days are just blinks of an eye. The moment she said “yes”, can’t explain really, but my heart said It was the greatest feeling it ever felt. A guy who once walked alone in his lonely life now shares a hand with a girl he dreamt off every night.

And who can tell. Nothing can separate this two. For they are binded my a promise- a commitment based on a choice not to give up and then chained by a continuing love for each other.

Years and years had pass..and choice had been made…realities and differences are turned together as one. We loved each other and that makes our heart beat as one. Problems grew but it easily fades. Anger and disappointments we’re only a speck of blemish as we write our love story. No one’s giving up. Nothing really matters. It’s only our relationship and “how” we express ourselves to each other- those were the things worth fighting for. It’s just me and her, and everything..everyone…no,..It’s just “US”.

God must be very disappointed coz I took the magic pen- the pen that is used to write those love stories. If only God has been the author of my love, It will be all perfect. But since I took everything with my own hands, things became different.

I used to see rainbows after every storm and blue skies after every lie..but no.. today is not the same as before. I can’t tell whether I’m confused or maybe God is at work..busy re-writing my love story .

The one I called “mine” was now erased from the original set of casts. Mystery characters are showing up and I, the main actor, was now just a “side story” - messed up and being put aside.

Though I chose to love God more than her..and then her more than myself, ..everything became senseless. I’m just a damn character trying to fulfill his role!.

The girl who I loved the most is now gone.

She took off my hand and chose to embrace her new “reality”.

-J. Tienzo

*This blog post was originally posted on my deleted multiply account.